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Dealing With Other People's Trauma, Tuesday 9/16
“Apologies,” Stark said once everyone had arrived. “Not from me. I don’t think I need to apologize to any of you yet…but we’re going to talk about apologies today. It’s a very important subject. A difficult one, sometimes, but important.”
Was Ignis twitching slightly somewhere else on the island?
“Sometimes…sometimes you need to apologize. Sometimes it’s the only thing you can> do. Even if you don’t want to, or if you’ve done it wrong before, or if you think it might not be useful. You still should try.”
He was talking to himself here, too. Definitely.
“There are lots of reasons to apologize. Countless reasons. You may have done something purposefully that hurt someone else, you may have done something unintentionally, you may have not done something…big things, small things…so many things that are deserving of apologies and yet so many things are never apologized for.”
Stark's voice trailed off for a moment then he shook his head and continued.
“It helps though, apologizing. It might not fix everything but it helps and sometimes a little improvement can be everything. Sometimes an apology means the world to someone. Sometimes it means very little. But you should still try. It's better for everyone if you do, usually.”
Oh no, he was looking extra sincere right now. Followed by looking concerned.
“of course, if you never know that someone was hurt you'll never know to apologize. Sometimes you may just need to pay close attention to reactions to things, from people. If you can tell someone that they've hurt you then they'll hopefully know not to do the same thing again. Hopefully. So…let's talk about apologies?”
Was Ignis twitching slightly somewhere else on the island?
“Sometimes…sometimes you need to apologize. Sometimes it’s the only thing you can> do. Even if you don’t want to, or if you’ve done it wrong before, or if you think it might not be useful. You still should try.”
He was talking to himself here, too. Definitely.
“There are lots of reasons to apologize. Countless reasons. You may have done something purposefully that hurt someone else, you may have done something unintentionally, you may have not done something…big things, small things…so many things that are deserving of apologies and yet so many things are never apologized for.”
Stark's voice trailed off for a moment then he shook his head and continued.
“It helps though, apologizing. It might not fix everything but it helps and sometimes a little improvement can be everything. Sometimes an apology means the world to someone. Sometimes it means very little. But you should still try. It's better for everyone if you do, usually.”
Oh no, he was looking extra sincere right now. Followed by looking concerned.
“of course, if you never know that someone was hurt you'll never know to apologize. Sometimes you may just need to pay close attention to reactions to things, from people. If you can tell someone that they've hurt you then they'll hopefully know not to do the same thing again. Hopefully. So…let's talk about apologies?”